IOSS Logo

Menu

I am a content box for offcanvas navigation
I am a content box for offcanvas navigation
I am a content box for offcanvas navigation

Menu

A Couple with Power Struggle

54m

Alfons Vansteenwegen

Professor of Psychotherapy and Sexology
Trailer A Couple with Power Struggle Trailer
A Couple with Power Struggle Get AccessFull Video

Rate this product!

Content: Fighting for influence and control may become evident early in a relationship, but in some cases, it only becomes a roadblock when important topics are discussed and unresolved. George, a 45-year-old man, is married to Kate, 42. They have been together for 25 years, with three daughters. He complains about a lifelong premature ejaculation, and in the last two years, episodic erectile dysfunction appeared. His concern is that he cannot satisfy his partner as she doesn’t feel sexual pleasure. Kate always experienced low arousal. They have sex when she initiates it, and this happens infrequently. This couple had a long journey of unsatisfying sex. It seems a duty from both sides. They are angry at each other and very often argue about many things. They engage in controlling behaviors and resort to manipulating tactics. The power imbalance seems apparent as they both look for validation from the other. They are in a stall, playing the role of the victim and falling into the traditional script where she wants more empathy while he prefers to focus on his sexual function.

Prof. Alfons Vansteenwegen assesses the case presented by Evie Kirana, sharing his clinical experience on how sex influences the relationship and vice versa:

  1. The relationship may maintain or need the sexual problem 
  2. Other-validation and self-validation: why partners should aim for the second one
  3. Steps in the process from sexual (dis)functioning to seduction

 

Produced in 2023

Alfons Vansteenwegen

Alfons Vansteenwegen

Professor of Psychotherapy and Sexology
Lecturer

Alfons Vansteenwegen, Ph.D., is a professor of systems and communication theory and couple and family therapy and sexology. He is one of the leading Flemish theoreticians and therapists in communication theory and an important inspirator in couple therapy and general psychotherapy.

He is the past President of the Institute of Family and Sexuality Studies at the Catholic University of Leuven (Belgium). He is the head of the Communication Center at the University Clinics of Leuven, where residential couple therapy and sex therapy are provided. He conducted research and postgraduate training in couple, family, and sex therapy and postgraduate training in mediation. 
Visiting professor at Hopitaux Universitaires, Genève (25 Nov 1996); Universidad de Lima, Lima, Peru (Oct-Nov, 1998); University of Stellenbosch, SA (2-30 Aug 2002), Intams Summer Course, Brussels (2000- 2002); ESSM European School of Sexual Medicine, Oxford, (2008-2012 and Budapest, 2013-2017).
Author of more than 10 books (translated into several languages), counting the well-known The good enough couple (last edition in 2019). He is also the author/co-author of about 400 scientific and clinical publications about marriage, family, sexuality, and couple therapy. 
Prof. Vansteenwegen was awarded several prizes, including the VanEmdeBoas-VanUssel Award, Dutch Society of Sexology, Utrecht 2006; Gold Medal: Lifetime achievement, World Association of Sexual Health, Glasgow 2011; Abraham Maslow award, 2015.

Related Content

Instructional Course

Sensate Focus for Erectile Dysfunction

New Clinical Finding

The Relationship between Eating Disorder Psychopathology and Sexuality

New Clinical Finding

Relationship Satisfaction of Autistic and Non Autistic Partners in long term Relationships

Clinical Case Discussion

A Man with Erectile Dysfunction & Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

New Clinical Finding

Ghosting and the Dark Triad Traits

Clinical Case Discussion

Sexual Problems Say what Words Don’t

State of the art Lecture

The Science on Masturbation

Clinical Case Discussion

Pedophile OCD

Instructional Course

Helping Couples Navigate One Partner’s Porn Use

Instructional Course

The Process of Coming Out (Part 1 & 2)

Inspirational Talk

David Rowland’s Fundamental Contribution to Sexology (Part 1 & 2)

State of the art Lecture

A Comprehensive Management Strategy for Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder

Clinical Case Discussion

A Couple with Power Struggle

State of the art Lecture

Sexual Performance Anxiety – Part 2: Performance Anxiety: Moderating Factors and Models

Inspirational Talk

Sheryl Kingsberg’s Contribution to Female Sexual Health

Instructional Course

Management of Transference and Countertransference in Sexual Therapy (Part 1 & 2)

Clinical Case Discussion

A couple with Low Differentiation

Inspirational Talk

Male Ejaculation and Orgasm: What a Sexologist Needs to Know

State of the art Lecture

Sexual Performance Anxiety – Part 1: Understanding General and Sexual Anxiety

Instructional Course

The Clinical Management of Shame (Part 1 & 2)

New Clinical Finding

Relationships, Attachment and Sexual Functioning

Clinical Case Discussion

“This isn’t an affair!?”

Inspirational Talk

Michael Perelman’s Fundamental Contribution to Sex Therapy

Clinical Case Discussion

Couple Facing Infertility

New Clinical Finding

Regenerative Therapies for Erectile Dysfunction

Clinical Case Discussion

Couple Facing Premature Ejaculation

Inspirational Talk

Gender Affirming Surgery: What a Sexologist Needs to Know

Inspirational Talk

Raymond Rosen’s Fundamental Contribution to Sexology (Part 1 & 2)

State of the art Lecture

Spreading the message of Ellen Laan: In pursuit of sexual pleasure

Instructional Course

Explaining the Sexual Tipping Point: A Guide to Enhance Your Sex Therapy Practice (Part 1 & 2)

Inspirational Talk

Rosemary Basson’s Fundamental Contribution to Female Sexuality (Part 1 & 2)

Instructional Course

Mindfulness for Sex Therapy: Clinical Applications (Part 1 & 2)

New Clinical Finding

Gender Affirming Surgery: Then What?

New Clinical Finding

Red Flag in Paraphilic Interests

New Clinical Finding

Combining PDE5i for Erectile Dysfunction

New Clinical Finding

Sexual Boredom

Clinical Case Discussion

Single Man with Performance Anxiety

Clinical Case Discussion

Sexual Therapy and Borderline Personality Disorder

Clinical Case Discussion

Facing Premature Ovarian Insufficiency

Clinical Case Discussion

Young Man with Psychogenic Erectile Dysfunction

Clinical Case Discussion

Implications of an Affair for Couple Sex Therapy

Inspirational Talk

Stanley Althof’s Fundamental Contribution to Sex Therapy

Inspirational Talk

Congenital Penile Curvature: What a Sexologist Needs to Know

Instructional Course

Table for More than Two: How to Manage Consensual Non-monogamy in Couple Sex Therapy (Part 1 & 2)

Instructional Course

Gain Confidence in Handling patients’ Secrets and Lies in Couple Sex Therapy (Part 1 & 2)